Why You Should Masturbate More Often

Masturbation is still that taboo topic that some of us are doing on the DL. Shh…we wouldn’t dare talk about it.

The mere mention of the word seems to summon a spontaneous fusion of responses from giggles to blushing to outright laughter. Like sex, it’s one of the most natural things in the world for us to do. In fact, experts say it should be as much a part of a health maintenance routine as, say, brushing your teeth. Now you wouldn’t dare skip that in your daily routine.

Then why aren’t more women doing it?

“Some women would never dream of giving themselves pleasure,” says Dr. KaNisha L. Hall, a physician, sexual health expert and wellness coach, and author of Amazon Best Seller Sex After…:A Woman’s Guide to Empowered and Enhanced Sexual Experiences In The Evolution of Life. “We are conditioned as women to be afraid of our sexual selves because it, historically, has negative connotations. Some of us believe we need to depend on someone else to shape and define our pleasure.”

Hall says we need to be more proactive and exercise that beautiful muscle down there to stay healthy and improve our sex lives.  Here are some good reasons to touch yourself more often:

To keep stuff from…falling

“Gravity has its effect,” Hall says. “Eventually, the muscles and tissues that support your vagina will begin to weaken and your vaginal wall will begin to droop” similar to other muscles which lose effectiveness when not regularly used. Your pelvic floor, i.e., your uterus, bladder and rectum, need support. Lack of support to these muscles and tissues can cause incontinence, including fecal incontinence, and rectal prolapse or hemorrhoids.” Woah.

Also read: Exercises for a Better Sex Life

It reduces stress

Orgasm is a most powerful stress-reliever. Frankly, I’d say it’s one of the best, right up there with exercise. Climaxing release loads of oxytocin, relaxing your body, mind and spirit. When work, life, kids — even love — and everything else has your life in disarray, try this strategy to bring things down a notch.

Masturbation has been around since at least 4th millennium BC. The ancient Greeks saw it as a normal health substitute for other forms of sexual pleasure.

So you can get the “O” everytime

Let’s say you’ve recently moved to a new neighborhood. The first thing you want to know is where the grocery store is. You get directions, but eventually begin trying different routes, and finding shortcuts to get there faster or more efficiently. You might find and enjoy a scenic route, too.  “How can you tell a sexual partner how to find your pleasure spot if you don’t know the way yourself?” Hall says. “Look at your sexual health as a necessary food. You’d be more willing to experiment if you knew there was a definite health benefit attached.”

To maximize your potential

Women have three proven ways to reach orgasm: vaginal, clitoral, and neuro-psychological (a build-up of endorphins). And reportedly, we can have up to seven different kinds of orgasms. Again, woah. “Women are more magical than men when it comes to orgasms,” Hall says. “A man ejaculates and you can see it, but with a woman you can’t. So women don’t know what their sexual expectations are for orgasms.”  Maximize your potential! Go for seven.

So you can shop for toys.

No, not for the kids. These are sex toys are for you. From vibrating thongs to high-tech vibrators to classic dildos, there are a ridiculous number of gadgets today to get you your best orgasm ever.  “Some women prefer them. It can make masturbating more palatable because they’re not touching themselves, and the toys heighten the sensations more than simply through manual stimulation,” Hall says. Proceed with caution, though. Some battery-operated options can potentially overstimulate the clitoral nerves due to their high-frequency. Her simple and sound advice is to “find out what feels good. Repeat it. Max out on it.”

Because it’s a good reason to be selfish.

Some women value a man’s pleasure over their own. It’s all about making him feel good, not taking control of your own pleasure, Hall says. It’s OK to be selfish. If you don’t know what pleases you, and your partner misses the mark, who is to blame? “Your pleasure is your’s. Pleasure belongs to you. Stop depending on someone else.”

If masturbation is new to you, here are two tips to get started.

  • Draw yourself a bath and use just soap and your hands (put away the loofah and bath cloth). Explore. This can help take any dirty connotations out of it. Find your spot and enjoy yourself.
  • Try it at least twice a month. As your comfort level increases, practice more frequently. This is a good time to work out the kinks before it’s time to perform.

“Masturbation helps you keep your body sexual even when you’re not actively so. And since it’s said that more sex prolongs your life, think of masturbation as putting more money in the kitty.”

Karen Dickerson is a freelance writer and jewelry designer based in Washington, DC. Follow her on Instagram @erbodymustgetstoned

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